A new part of my support system

    The day before yesterday I started The Ultimate Edge program from Anthony Robbins. It came with a " Daily Magic" cd that has some daily breathing and mental exercises that are lifting my energy levels, stimulating my body, shifting my emotional state into a positive confident and grateful energy, and helping me with visualization.

   A lot of things I am doing these days are reminding me of similar things I have done in the past, at times of my life when I was feeling great. I am rediscovering my old practices in a new way. I am doing these things with a more intentional approach, from a place of patience and understanding that I did not have when I was younger. I am developing skills in areas of my mind that I have never cultivated before. I am confident that with these new found skills, I am recognizing and changing patterns that I have had my entire life, which have only caused destruction. Understanding that my "blue print" (the beliefs I have that create my idea of how it "should be" in these areas) is the root, and changing this will create the changes naturally that I have been trying to force myself to make for the last 14 years. For me, at this time, the most valuable tools I have for doing this, are role models. I am now using my role models in a much more direct intentional way and  am choosing to find role models for all of the areas I want to change in my life. I have realized that my "blue print" is only what it is, because that is all I have ever known from the direct models in my life, and from my own life experiences. In order to see that it can be the way I want,  how to achieve it, and most importantly, what life will be like once I have incorporated it, I must use role models for every area that I want to improve! This way, after I begin to incorporate it into my life I will believe and understand it, this will create more momentum instead of the old self sabotage cycle I would normally go into to get my life back to what I know. If I can not find a person to model after for something I want to change, it will be necessary for me to design an ideal model in my mind by asking questions like, what would a person who lives this way do, how would they think, etc.

   Anyways, I got a little off track here, but that's O.K. The original thought for this post was about doing something every morning that will stimulate me and help me get into the mode of confidence, gratefulness and excitement before I do anything else. This way I can come at the day with a new attitude, be more assertive, and take more action towards the areas of my life that I want to improve. The newest part of my support system, and I am excited about it for sure!!!!!

   Thanks for reading and here's to a great day ahead, for building lasting fulfillment!!

Are the people I am surrounding myself with supportive?

  As I continue to ask myself the questions, why am I not creating the change I want in my life faster? What am I not doing that I must do in order to create the results I desire now?
  I am starting to understand more and more about my beliefs and how they are limiting me. I am achieving this by working through Anthony Robbins book, Awaken the Giant Within. Taking his advice, I wrote down some of my empowering beliefs and some of my dis-empowering beliefs.
  After answering some questions in the book about some of my beliefs (empowering and dis-empowering), I realized that when it comes to my empowering beliefs, I have only  two people in my life who support them fully. The majority of the people in my life lovingly support my dis-empowering beliefs, with very strong conviction.
  After some reflection, I have realized that I have spent my life isolating myself from people to avoid being inundated with their beliefs. This has happened because I have always surrounded myself with people who did not support my morals and values, so to avoid their judgments and influences I have isolated myself. This was all done unconsciously.
  The awareness that has come from this for me, is that I need a support system in order to develop new habits. This support system consists of many things for me, including this blog, but I am starting to see that the biggest accelerator for any support system is going to be people who will inspire me, encourage my growth, challenge me to push myself, be honest with me, and encourage me to be honest and express myself. These relationships will encourage expression and discourage suppression. They will be filled with laughter, mutual caring and accountability.
  So what I MUST DO, is choose my relationships with care and practice saying no to relationships that are not supportive!!

Thank You for reading
Ron Hess

The Power Of Belief

How can we get the results we want?

  Results come from action, and the habit of action comes from practice. Once the decision has been made to incorporate something into our life that we know will give us the results we want, and we are committed to making it a part of our life, we must practice action.

   Practicing action repetitively creates the habit or pattern in our life. Practicing seeing the vision of what this will create in our lives, is what gives us the drive to push through the uncomfortable times. Most importantly, we must remember that in order to build any muscle, we have to give it the most effort, when we are tired and uncomfortable and want to give up. This is when the growth occurs, this is the point that develops the new pattern or habit. If we only do things when they're easy, we will never learn to push through in those times that it is most necessary, and it will never become a lasting change.



 

What beliefs are we holding onto that are no longer true for us, or maybe never were?

We are Closer Than We Think

  "You must know that in any moment a decision you make can change the course of your life forever: the very next person you stand behind in line or sit next to on an airplane, the very next phone call you make or receive, the very next movie you see or book you read or page you turn could be the one single thing that causes the floodgates to open, and all of the things that you've been waiting for to fall into place.
  If you really want your life to be passionate, you need to live with this attitude of expectancy."
~ Anthony Robbins     Awaken the Giant Within   pg. 50

  Sometimes I feel as though I am stagnant, that it is taking me too long to make the changes I desire. This paragraph was a reminder for me that I am closer than I think to my next step in my growth. That simply by integrating more positive material, more supportive friends and creating a strong system of self support I am keeping myself moving in the direction I desire. All I have to do is continue to evaluate myself by asking myself questions about what I am doing, what is motivating me to do it,or not do it, and continue to practice making the decisions that align with my true values.

  We are all closer than we realize to living the life of our dreams! When we believe it we will see it......

"For things to change for you, you've got to change"

How can we change our perception, to help us live an expressive life?

  I have heard and read the phrase, "do it like you've never done it before" from many authors and speakers. I have heard the phrase "work harder on yourself than you do on your job" from Jim Rohn many times. Every time I have heard these phrases, I had a vision of myself working harder and longer than I ever had before.

 As of today, I now think of theses phrases in a way that will encourage expression instead of  thoughtless effort, ease in place of struggling effort and meaning in place of empty effort. I think of Living "like I have never lived before", in terms of expressing myself openly and making decisions that leave shame nowhere in my heart.

  A simple example of this would be, I have been wanting to lose weight and get my body in ideal condition, I also have decided that this summer I am going to get the best tan I have ever had, because I never have had a good tan. I have always had a hard time taking my shirt off in public unless I was swimming, because I was too white or not in good enough shape (waiting to express myself). I assume this comes from a lack of acceptance of myself, causing me to feel ashamed of my own body. So I have spent my entire life, hiding myself to avoid judgment, this is the opposite of living an expressive life. So this summer I am so committed to living an expressive life, that I am going to take my shirt off every chance I have to get some sun. (with sun block of course)
  What I have noticed by taking my shirt off when I feel uncomfortable is, that when I expose myself openly to the world around me, I can no longer hide the things about myself I feel ashamed of. I suppose part of this process for me is defining where the shame stems from. My shame in my body comes from the fact that I am a little over weight. When  I show this to the world, I am pronouncing to everyone around me that I am not making the effort in my physical exercise or diet  to condition my body in a way that will allow me to live a more fulfilling life. So by taking my shirt off, I am forced to take accountability for this. At this point I can choose to either change this about myself, or accept it, and know that I do not need any acceptance from anyone other than myself. By continuing to go shirtless when possible, it will serve as a regular reminder for me that part of my vision is to be in the best physical condition I can be in , to serve me in my more fulfilling life.

  My idea here, is that this will help stimulate action toward more physical exercise and a healthier diet, which I have been struggling with.

So this brings me to the question, how can we change our perception, to help us live a more fulfilling life? To this question, I would answer.....HUNGER FOR MORE (an unwillingness to continue to accept what we no longer desire for our life), what helped me to change this one perspective was purely a hunger deep inside me that I am no longer denying. This hunger desires only true lasting fulfillment, fulfillment that does not harm or inflict limitations on others or myself. This hunger has started to grow rapidly now that I have made a commitment to myself to live the life of my dreams, and to continue to practice dreaming. Recently I have been voicing my demands for a better life, not only to myself in my shelter of comfort, but I have been expressing it to everyone who will listen. This expression, is the best  facilitator I have found for myself yet.

What will full Expression feel like?

I can not currently visualize or perceive my life in full expression, but I CAN visualize and perceive it with more expression than I am currently living. I feel that expression comes before vision, so without natural expression (intuition could be another word for natural expression) we can not create a vision that truly aligns with our values. A vision that is not aligned with our values, lacks heart and real clarity. Practicing true expression, not suppressed by concepts like money will help create a vision aligned with our values, which in turn will support the life we are capable of.