Well I've been working hard at conditioning my emotional state. I've been doing most of it on the track and through my diet. As a result, I have lost over 6 lbs and am gaining energy rapidly!
Today I was going through a run down of the things in my life that I have felt like are holding me back. After making this two and a half page list, I went for a run on the track. As I was running I started getting more and more pissed off about the current state of my emotional life. Once I was in this emotional state of being fed up and pained by the shortcomings in my life, I ran as hard as I could yelling at life that today is my decision day! I refuse to let petty excuses guide my life for another minute. I made it very clear to the powers that be and to myself that I made a commitment today that will stand for the rest of my life, a commitment to lay down the excuses, the weak drive, the weak emotional states, the weak accountability, the weak mind (that's been letting others ideas direct it) and the fear of uncertainty.
Today I picked up my torch and vowed to be the man I know I am, and stand strong in him regardless of what others say, think, or do! To take charge of my life, like I know I can, like I know I have to!
So after my track run, I made a long list of the things I have been doing, letting happen, or letting control me. I titled the list " Things I Am Doing That Are Fucking Pissing Me Off!" This list helped me remember that I am highly motivated by anger, and if used properly this can be a great tool. I apologize for the language but I found it necessary for me to create the state I am now using to get me off my ass and more resistant to the people who try to penetrate my state with their random B.S. that will run my life down if I let it.
Anyways, just a quick rant about anger as a motivating tool.
Monday, July 4, 2011
Thursday, June 23, 2011
A new part of my support system
The day before yesterday I started The Ultimate Edge program from Anthony Robbins. It came with a " Daily Magic" cd that has some daily breathing and mental exercises that are lifting my energy levels, stimulating my body, shifting my emotional state into a positive confident and grateful energy, and helping me with visualization.
A lot of things I am doing these days are reminding me of similar things I have done in the past, at times of my life when I was feeling great. I am rediscovering my old practices in a new way. I am doing these things with a more intentional approach, from a place of patience and understanding that I did not have when I was younger. I am developing skills in areas of my mind that I have never cultivated before. I am confident that with these new found skills, I am recognizing and changing patterns that I have had my entire life, which have only caused destruction. Understanding that my "blue print" (the beliefs I have that create my idea of how it "should be" in these areas) is the root, and changing this will create the changes naturally that I have been trying to force myself to make for the last 14 years. For me, at this time, the most valuable tools I have for doing this, are role models. I am now using my role models in a much more direct intentional way and am choosing to find role models for all of the areas I want to change in my life. I have realized that my "blue print" is only what it is, because that is all I have ever known from the direct models in my life, and from my own life experiences. In order to see that it can be the way I want, how to achieve it, and most importantly, what life will be like once I have incorporated it, I must use role models for every area that I want to improve! This way, after I begin to incorporate it into my life I will believe and understand it, this will create more momentum instead of the old self sabotage cycle I would normally go into to get my life back to what I know. If I can not find a person to model after for something I want to change, it will be necessary for me to design an ideal model in my mind by asking questions like, what would a person who lives this way do, how would they think, etc.
Anyways, I got a little off track here, but that's O.K. The original thought for this post was about doing something every morning that will stimulate me and help me get into the mode of confidence, gratefulness and excitement before I do anything else. This way I can come at the day with a new attitude, be more assertive, and take more action towards the areas of my life that I want to improve. The newest part of my support system, and I am excited about it for sure!!!!!
Thanks for reading and here's to a great day ahead, for building lasting fulfillment!!
A lot of things I am doing these days are reminding me of similar things I have done in the past, at times of my life when I was feeling great. I am rediscovering my old practices in a new way. I am doing these things with a more intentional approach, from a place of patience and understanding that I did not have when I was younger. I am developing skills in areas of my mind that I have never cultivated before. I am confident that with these new found skills, I am recognizing and changing patterns that I have had my entire life, which have only caused destruction. Understanding that my "blue print" (the beliefs I have that create my idea of how it "should be" in these areas) is the root, and changing this will create the changes naturally that I have been trying to force myself to make for the last 14 years. For me, at this time, the most valuable tools I have for doing this, are role models. I am now using my role models in a much more direct intentional way and am choosing to find role models for all of the areas I want to change in my life. I have realized that my "blue print" is only what it is, because that is all I have ever known from the direct models in my life, and from my own life experiences. In order to see that it can be the way I want, how to achieve it, and most importantly, what life will be like once I have incorporated it, I must use role models for every area that I want to improve! This way, after I begin to incorporate it into my life I will believe and understand it, this will create more momentum instead of the old self sabotage cycle I would normally go into to get my life back to what I know. If I can not find a person to model after for something I want to change, it will be necessary for me to design an ideal model in my mind by asking questions like, what would a person who lives this way do, how would they think, etc.
Anyways, I got a little off track here, but that's O.K. The original thought for this post was about doing something every morning that will stimulate me and help me get into the mode of confidence, gratefulness and excitement before I do anything else. This way I can come at the day with a new attitude, be more assertive, and take more action towards the areas of my life that I want to improve. The newest part of my support system, and I am excited about it for sure!!!!!
Thanks for reading and here's to a great day ahead, for building lasting fulfillment!!
Friday, June 17, 2011
Are the people I am surrounding myself with supportive?
As I continue to ask myself the questions, why am I not creating the change I want in my life faster? What am I not doing that I must do in order to create the results I desire now?
I am starting to understand more and more about my beliefs and how they are limiting me. I am achieving this by working through Anthony Robbins book, Awaken the Giant Within. Taking his advice, I wrote down some of my empowering beliefs and some of my dis-empowering beliefs.
After answering some questions in the book about some of my beliefs (empowering and dis-empowering), I realized that when it comes to my empowering beliefs, I have only two people in my life who support them fully. The majority of the people in my life lovingly support my dis-empowering beliefs, with very strong conviction.
After some reflection, I have realized that I have spent my life isolating myself from people to avoid being inundated with their beliefs. This has happened because I have always surrounded myself with people who did not support my morals and values, so to avoid their judgments and influences I have isolated myself. This was all done unconsciously.
The awareness that has come from this for me, is that I need a support system in order to develop new habits. This support system consists of many things for me, including this blog, but I am starting to see that the biggest accelerator for any support system is going to be people who will inspire me, encourage my growth, challenge me to push myself, be honest with me, and encourage me to be honest and express myself. These relationships will encourage expression and discourage suppression. They will be filled with laughter, mutual caring and accountability.
So what I MUST DO, is choose my relationships with care and practice saying no to relationships that are not supportive!!
Thank You for reading
Ron Hess
I am starting to understand more and more about my beliefs and how they are limiting me. I am achieving this by working through Anthony Robbins book, Awaken the Giant Within. Taking his advice, I wrote down some of my empowering beliefs and some of my dis-empowering beliefs.
After answering some questions in the book about some of my beliefs (empowering and dis-empowering), I realized that when it comes to my empowering beliefs, I have only two people in my life who support them fully. The majority of the people in my life lovingly support my dis-empowering beliefs, with very strong conviction.
After some reflection, I have realized that I have spent my life isolating myself from people to avoid being inundated with their beliefs. This has happened because I have always surrounded myself with people who did not support my morals and values, so to avoid their judgments and influences I have isolated myself. This was all done unconsciously.
The awareness that has come from this for me, is that I need a support system in order to develop new habits. This support system consists of many things for me, including this blog, but I am starting to see that the biggest accelerator for any support system is going to be people who will inspire me, encourage my growth, challenge me to push myself, be honest with me, and encourage me to be honest and express myself. These relationships will encourage expression and discourage suppression. They will be filled with laughter, mutual caring and accountability.
So what I MUST DO, is choose my relationships with care and practice saying no to relationships that are not supportive!!
Thank You for reading
Ron Hess
Thursday, June 16, 2011
How can we get the results we want?
Results come from action, and the habit of action comes from practice. Once the decision has been made to incorporate something into our life that we know will give us the results we want, and we are committed to making it a part of our life, we must practice action.
Practicing action repetitively creates the habit or pattern in our life. Practicing seeing the vision of what this will create in our lives, is what gives us the drive to push through the uncomfortable times. Most importantly, we must remember that in order to build any muscle, we have to give it the most effort, when we are tired and uncomfortable and want to give up. This is when the growth occurs, this is the point that develops the new pattern or habit. If we only do things when they're easy, we will never learn to push through in those times that it is most necessary, and it will never become a lasting change.
Practicing action repetitively creates the habit or pattern in our life. Practicing seeing the vision of what this will create in our lives, is what gives us the drive to push through the uncomfortable times. Most importantly, we must remember that in order to build any muscle, we have to give it the most effort, when we are tired and uncomfortable and want to give up. This is when the growth occurs, this is the point that develops the new pattern or habit. If we only do things when they're easy, we will never learn to push through in those times that it is most necessary, and it will never become a lasting change.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
We are Closer Than We Think
"You must know that in any moment a decision you make can change the course of your life forever: the very next person you stand behind in line or sit next to on an airplane, the very next phone call you make or receive, the very next movie you see or book you read or page you turn could be the one single thing that causes the floodgates to open, and all of the things that you've been waiting for to fall into place.
If you really want your life to be passionate, you need to live with this attitude of expectancy."
~ Anthony Robbins Awaken the Giant Within pg. 50
Sometimes I feel as though I am stagnant, that it is taking me too long to make the changes I desire. This paragraph was a reminder for me that I am closer than I think to my next step in my growth. That simply by integrating more positive material, more supportive friends and creating a strong system of self support I am keeping myself moving in the direction I desire. All I have to do is continue to evaluate myself by asking myself questions about what I am doing, what is motivating me to do it,or not do it, and continue to practice making the decisions that align with my true values.
We are all closer than we realize to living the life of our dreams! When we believe it we will see it......
If you really want your life to be passionate, you need to live with this attitude of expectancy."
~ Anthony Robbins Awaken the Giant Within pg. 50
Sometimes I feel as though I am stagnant, that it is taking me too long to make the changes I desire. This paragraph was a reminder for me that I am closer than I think to my next step in my growth. That simply by integrating more positive material, more supportive friends and creating a strong system of self support I am keeping myself moving in the direction I desire. All I have to do is continue to evaluate myself by asking myself questions about what I am doing, what is motivating me to do it,or not do it, and continue to practice making the decisions that align with my true values.
We are all closer than we realize to living the life of our dreams! When we believe it we will see it......
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